Reflecting
on Civil Rights, My Mother, Hope and Spirituality: Often I Feel As If I Have
Failed!
By
Rev. Melony McGant edited by H. Daniel Mujahid
I was
nurtured in the womb with compassion and birthed by a Woman of Courage in times
of Great Change. As a child I made mudpies filled with hope; picked blueberries
with joy, learned to swim in the ocean and climbed apple and acorn trees in
search of wisdom. When I fell, the Woman of Courage hugged me and nurtured my
cuts and bruises. I was a wild child dancing through fields of grass and
flowers, chasing butterflies in the morning. As a child in the early 60’s
I met Pete Seeger when I was at the Blueberry Cove Camp (Maine). I will always remember his warmth, his
laughter and his beautiful, Generous Spirit! I am still singing a song he
taught us---"This Land Is Your Land, This Land Is My Land!"
Looking
back I realize that as a child, I learned to read and travel the World through
books! At night I imagined what life would be like if I could ride on the moon
and share my toys with other children in the sparkling stars.
The
Woman of Courage laughed and taught me to write stories and use my imagination.
She told me I was special gift and would help make the World better. She taught
me to Pray and say Thank You for my good life.
As I
grew, the World kept Changing. The Woman of Courage, My Mother, Betty J.
Tilman taught me to use my voice and speak out for Justice and to Serve All
with Love. She taught me to respect others and shared her dreams for
Peace in the World. We marched and sang and prayed that all children
could be free to grow in Love.
The
truth is, most of my life I've had to share My Mother, who lives in Pittsburgh,
PA. I shared her with great grandparents and grandparents, aunts and
uncles and cousins and so many, many other people. Often they were people
of different races, religions, and cultures; with languages I didn't (and
sometimes still don't) understand.
People
from Africa, Asia, Europe, South America and yes, even North America took to
Her Love Like white on rice, red on apples, yellow on bananas, and green on
tree leaves.
Over
the years that I have known her, I have discovered that countless numbers
throughout the World called her a Dear Friend and named her Godmother or Aunt
to their Children.
There
were many times I felt left behind. I often was. When she marched for
Civil Rights in the segregated states, she left her young, willful, outspoken
daughter in the safety of family friends. When she bicycled miles and
miles with the Peace and Freedom Movement or went off to study Transcendental
Meditation, my thought was "What About Me?"
Today
I can answer “What About Me?” My Mother has and does use her energy, her
voice and resources for equal rights for Me and All People of all cultures,
race and religions. There is Miss Betty, Aunt Betty, Lady Betty, and Mom Betty
but in the Castle of My Heart, she will always be the ONE who gave ME, her
daughter the opportunity to Grow with Wisdom, to Shine with Confidence and
Learn to Love beyond my imagination. My Mother Will Always Be My
Queen!
Looking
back, I now know that I was so very Blessed to grow up in a household where
learning my history, having an imagination, believing I was special and
participation in the Civil Rights Movement was essential. Sojourner
Truth, Harriet Tubman, John Brown, Mary McLeod Bethune, Ralph Bunche, W.E. B.
DuBois, Kwame Nkruma, Gwendolyn Brooks, Charles Drew, Katherine Dunham, Romare
Bearden, Franz Fanon, Franklin Frazier, Langston Hughes, Countee Cullen, Howard
Thurman, Martin Luther King, Jr., Malcolm X, Harry Belafonte, Shirley Chisolm
and Barbara Jordan, James Baldwin and Paul Laurence Dunbar, Gordon Parks and
Richard Wright were just a few of the many names discussed at our dinner table.
My
mother Betty J. Tilman, worked for 28 years at the University of
Pittsburgh as a Foreign Student Advisor, etc, (and was a founding member of the
University’s African Heritage Classroom Committee,) is a Golden Heritage Member
of the NAACP, and also sat on the Pittsburgh Branch NAACP board of directors
for 30 years. She has been Vice-Moderator and an Elder in the Pittsburgh
Presbytery. She was an activist in the Civil Rights, Peace and Freedom and
the Free South Africa Movements. As a child I attended many
marches including the March on Washington where Dr. King gave his “I Have A
Dream Speech, participated in the historical "Poor Peoples Campaign"
(Pittsburgh). I too belonged to the NAACP, and attended community
meetings with my Mom. Because of her involvement with the Friend's
Meeting House (Quakers), in 1970, I spent the summer traveling through Ghana
with the American Friends Service Committee. I was fourteen years and
came back with a real appreciation and respect for “Mother Africa!”
As a
teen, I worked in the office of Pennsylvania Legislator, the Honorable K. Leroy
Irvis and in the offices of a political consulting firm. As a young adult, and
professional in Pittsburgh, I often volunteered on local, state and national
political campaigns. I believed, and still do believe that the right to vote
and live in a democratic society is a great gift!
In
1974 when I was 19, I joined the Navy. While stationed at the Norfolk
Naval Air Station I wrote for the base newspaper and later when stationed in
Puerto Rico, in addition to my responsibility working at the commissary, I
hosted a multi-cultural show on Armed Forces Caribbean Network. In 1978,
I returned to Pittsburgh at the age of 23 and became involved with community
advocacy. I was appointed as an NAACP board member, served on the
NAACP Human Rights Dinner Committee, was editor of the NAACP News, and briefly
hosted a weekly NAACP radio talk show. My poetry was published by the
Pittsburgh Courier. One piece was titled “The Unworthy, Worthy Politician”.
Even then as I do now, I questioned the unfair system and the integrity of some
of our leaders.
In
1980 I relocated to West Virginia to complete my undergraduate studies at
Marshall University, and later to Washington where I was awarded an internship
and hired as assistant to the fundraiser (Gary Rivers) for the Congressional
Black Caucus Foundation.
In
1990, after several years in NYC working for the American Management
Association, I relocated back to Pittsburgh, owned my own business, and found
myself involved in both a local & national movement in support of MBE/WBE
programs. One of my most memorable marketing projects was a campaign for the
Minority Business Enterprise Legal Defense and Education Fund (MBELDEF). I have
been a feature writer for the New Pittsburgh Courier, been featured in MBE
Magazine, and have written for several other publications.
It is
interesting to note that I now believe that one of the greatest errors of the
Civil Rights Movement was for People of Color to refer to ourselves as
minorities. The definition of minority according to Random House
Webster's College Dictionary is “the smaller part or number part or amount
forming less than half of the whole.” People of Color Are the Majority
People in the World. We Are Not Less Than. I believe that we should teach
our Children that they are brilliant, unique and special!
My
life and career mentors and supporters have included James E. Aloway, John
Butler, Wilhemina Byrd Brown, Byrd R. Brown Esq., John and Gloria Brown, Katherine Dunham (legendary
choreographer and founder of The Dunham Dance Company, whom I traveled with and
assisted for two years), Dr. Lucinia Dunn ( Former Mayor of Tuskeegee, AL), Rev. Marcia L. Dyson, Alma Speed Fox (President,
Freedom Unlimited), Mary Gloster, Sylvia Golbin Goodman (executive director of the
Andrew Goodman Foundation), Dr. Donald Henderson (former Provost, University of
Pittsburgh) and his wife Bebe, Helena and John Hughes, Luddy Hayden,
Elizabeth A. Hin (author and spiritual teacher), Nancy Lee (one of the founding
members of the University of Pittsburgh’s African Heritage Classroom
Committee), Congressman Parren Mitchell, Rev. Donald Marbury (Senior
Pastor at Ebenezer AME Church Brunswick, MD), H. Daniel Mujahid, Jackie Mullins
(United Steele Workers), Dr. Sandra Murray (re-known cancer researcher), Debbe Nimick, Tyrone
and Barbara Rasheed, Gabbi Russell, Nate Smith, Maida Springer Kemp (first
female officer in the International Ladies Garment Workers Union and leader in
the African Trade Movement), Dolores Stanton, Gretchen Wharton, Barbara Davis
White, Dr. Glory Van Scott (actress, dancer, writer, producer and founder of
Dr. Glory’s Youth Theatre), and many
more unnamed but held in my heart.
In
life I work to be patient, sincere, kind, and responsible. I believe in
listening, and in providing support or encouragement to every individual.
I enjoy people of all cultures. They inspire me, and I enjoy sharing my
knowledge with them. Most importantly I have a passion to serve, and to assist
in the healing of hearts, so that more individuals can grow and flourish as
productive members of our society.
And
yet, often I pray and sit in silence asking for guidance and direction.
If you were to ask have we failed, I would say that I don't know the
answer. Racism and classism still exists in America. Integration has not
been altogether welcomed. Though we have made progress, discrimination does
exist. The wounds of slavery have not healed and often permeate our
interaction with each other. A significant number of Euro-Americans still
believe that many people of color deserve to be treated as second class
citizens. African Americans and other people of color are still often the
last hired and first fired. Unemployment for African-Americans doubles
that of Euro-Americans. Certainly the lack of focus on our youth,
inequitable education, as well as violence, guns and drugs circulated in many
communities are symptomatic of American society’s values and lack of moral
compass. These facts cause me great despair.
In
our society today, there is too much emphasis on the acquisition of “things”
and not enough emphasis on compassion, Love and respect for each other.
Sometime
I feel as If I have failed, and that my miniscule actions leave no footprints
in the sands of time. Still, there is a place deep in my heart that tells
me that I am wrong. It is only my disappointment that causes this
pain in my heart to move through my body as my nerve endings become filled with
acute anxiety.
What
I am feeling is what many of you may be feeling. The question some of us
may be asking in this time of painful transformation is "Will Hope Be
Enough for All to Re-Connect to Our Divine Source of Love?".
The Truth Is that All Sincere Unselfish Actions of Love Make this World
Better!
There
are moments when I daydream. I close my eyes, trust and allow time
to pass. I breathe and exhale. In Hope. Out Love. I
follow the Light through the darkness. Each step I take into my heart
fills me with Grace and gives me Hope.
I
vision Good Change on Earth. Good Change is not always comfortable or
easy. Sometimes Change brings confusion and chaos. I Breathe.
The World Is Changing. I Am Changing.
I
hold on to Faith and ask for more Courage. I keep moving towards the
Light. I Breathe. In Hope. Out Love. I thank Our
Blessed Creator. I honor Our Ancestors, Angels and Saints.
As I
step into Good Change, I imagine that I become the Light. All around me
are other Lights. We are those Spirits Awakening with Respect and
Integrity. Together We Are Breathing. In Hope. Out Love.
My
Dream for the United States and Our World continues. I imagine that
Collectively we honor our Elders and our Children. Together, we vision a World
of Loving Peace where there is economic equity, good education and housing; as
well as a blossoming sustenance and Good Possibility for All. We
share Lovingly. We Forgive. We smile and decide to work together to help
heal our broken hearts and our Earth/Heart.
Somewhere
buttercups, tulips and magnolia trees blossom. Robins and hummingbirds
sing. The powerful voice of blue jays is heard even by dolphins and
whales. The oceans roar and the wind calls on us to Love. And Love
vibrates and spins new melodies.
Yes,
even with all of our difficulties, inequity, injustices and wars, if we are to
survive and prosper, we must embrace Good Change. We must commit to work
together to allow Hope, Love and New Possibility to fill the air. It
is time to continue our individual and Collective Journeys
with Courage, Integrity, Purpose and Respect for Each Other.
I
invite YOU to take a moment to still yourself and bow in Gratitude to for your
Life of Good Purpose. Though we have made progress, there is much we must
do. Right Now, let us offer prayers for those who are lost, suffering and in
need of our Compassion. May Integrity Awaken our Humanity and allow Love
to lead so that our Children thrive and grow in prosperity… may good dreams
flow everywhere throughout the World.
Breathe
Deeply 10 Times. In Courage with Love, Out Integrity with Good Purpose
and Love.
I pray
that We All continue to learn to take greater steps on the path of Love.
With
Joy, Humility and Gratitude----Let Us All Open Our hearts Breathe Deeply.
Rev. Melony McGant
BIO
Rev. Melony McGant is
a thought-leader, humanist, poet, & compassionate
communications professional with more than 20 years experience in assisting
both people and organizations discover and promote their professional or
personal life missions.
A resident of New York City, Rev. Melony McGant is a career/life
coach and personal empowerment workshop facilitator and a Certified Level
One Trainer in Kingian Nonviolence. She is also Coordinating/Marketing
Director for Dr. Glory Van Scott Productions. She has a strong track
record of success in public relations, cause marketing and special events
coordination. For her community service she has received the New
Mexico Not Even One Service Award, the 911 Red Cross Volunteer Award, the
Pittsburgh City Council Women's Recognition Award, and the Minority Business
Enterprise Legal Defense and Education Fund Award for Service.
An ordained Interfaith Minister, a professional storyteller and author of the
novel "Sunshine & Olivier: A Parable of Love" (IUniverse),
Rev. Melony is also the primary author of "The Healing Adagio: A Love
Symphony In Five Parts" and the new journal, empowerment
workbook "Seeker Dreamer: Amazing, Brilliant Compassionate YOU!"
(both published by Authorhouse). Her books are available at Amazon,
Barnes and Noble and independent booksellers world-wide.
Rev. Melony McGant's work is also included in several anthologies,
including "The Book of Hope" and "The World Book of
Healing" (both by Beyond Borders Press) and "Go Tell Michelle:
African American Women Write to Michelle Obama" (SUNY Press).
To contact Rev. Melony McGant, email: melonymcgant@yahoo.com or call
212-502-0895. Visit her blog http://www.melonymcgant.blogspot.com/